I never thought I’d be writing something so personal, especially about a topic that feels so deeply tied to my identity. But I feel compelled to share my story, not just as the director of Be Parent, but as a woman who has walked a long and complicated road with fertility.
I’m 31 years old, and for the last 10 years, I’ve been laser-focused on building my career, creating a business that helps others achieve their dreams of having a family. But somewhere along the way, I put my own dream of becoming a mother on the back burner. At the time, it made sense—I was married, had my whole life ahead of me, and I thought I had time. Freezing my eggs seemed like a distant decision I could make “later.” Life, however, had different plans.
Over one year ago, I went through a painful divorce. Suddenly, the idea of starting a family felt even further out of reach. I told myself that I would focus on my work, heal, and revisit the idea when I was ready. But recently, after years of dedicating my energy to my career, I went in for fertility testing, only to be told my ovarian reserve was low, and my follicle count was far from what it should be for my age. To add to the complexity, I’ve also been diagnosed with fibroids, which can impact both egg quality and fertility outcomes.
I was heartbroken. How could this be happening when I’ve spent my career helping others bring life into this world? The irony isn’t lost on me, but it has also made me more passionate about sharing my journey and educating other women about their options, including egg freezing.
For years, I thought I had time. I assumed that I could wait for the “right moment,” the “right partner,” and the “right situation” to start a family. But what I’ve learned is that fertility isn’t something we can predict or take for granted. Life doesn’t always follow the timeline we’ve imagined for ourselves.
Egg freezing isn’t just about hitting pause on your biological clock; it’s about preserving your options. For me, the decision to freeze my eggs was rooted in the hope that one day, I’ll meet the right person and still have a chance to become a mother. While my numbers aren’t ideal, I still hold on to the belief that freezing my eggs gives me a little more time to create the future I’ve always dreamed of.
As women, we’re often told to focus on our careers, be independent, and chase success. And while I believe in the importance of those things, I also believe we need to have honest conversations about fertility—especially the fact that our egg supply doesn’t wait for us to feel “ready.”
I don’t want anyone to feel the same fear or regret I felt when I received my fertility diagnosis. If you’re considering egg freezing, don’t wait until everything in life feels perfect, because perfection doesn’t exist. Fertility is unpredictable, and if you’re someone who might want children one day, it’s worth exploring your options now.
My story isn’t over, and neither is my hope for the future. I’m learning to make peace with where
I am in life while still holding space for the family I hope to create one day. As the director of
Be Parent, I’ve had the privilege of witnessing the miracle of family-building in so many forms. And now, I’m working on giving myself that same grace and possibility.
If you’re someone who’s thinking about freezing your eggs, I encourage you to reach out for a consultation, learn about your fertility, and don’t be afraid to take that step, even if you’re not sure what the future holds. You deserve the chance to dream, to hope, and to prepare for whatever life brings your way.
With love and understanding,
Naia
